Is It Just Me??

All of us have “pet peeves”; little things that annoy, bother, or put us “in a tizzy “. I don’t know about you, but, I find myself wondering: “Am I the ONLY one who’s bothered by this? Is it just me?” So, here is a short list of my “is it just me” items— hopefully you can identify with at least one of them! (More will be coming in a future blog post!)

  1. Why does everyone driving on the highway go way over the speed limit? Silly me! I actually drive the speed limit (staying in the far right lane as I do)— and people are flying by me, so I know they have to be driving in excess of 70 mph!! They’re not in police cars or other emergency vehicles. So what is their hurry? Do they not realize how fast they’re driving, or do they realize it and just don’t care? Are they emboldened to speed because— yes, that’s right- there are NO state troopers out there enforcing the speed limit?? (Why have a speed limit if it’s not going to be enforced?) It seems like when there’s a report of a fatal accident in which the driver “lost control” of the car and crashed, the most likely cause is that they were speeding! Have you ever heard of a driver losing control of a car while driving SLOWLY?? It’s scary how fast these people drive— I am amazed there aren’t more of these bad accidents every day!
  2. What is up with people leaving their homes and going out in public in their pajamas?? And I’m not just talking about children; I’m talking about GROWN FOLKS, coming out in public with their pajamas on— looking like they just jumped out of bed and ran out of the house! I understand wanting to be comfortable; but guess what? Sweat pants are comfortable too— and are easy to put in and take off! Even sweats look better than pajamas out in public; the only legitimate reason for a person to run outside in their PJs is if their house is on fire and it’s at night and they have to hurry up and get out before they die! Come on, people, put some clothes on!!
  3. Skinny jeans: It seems everyone EXCEPT skinny people wear skinny jeans! (I wish I had taken photos of some of the people— mostly females— wearing skinny jeans who had NO BUSINESS wearing them; maybe in a future blog post!). People, just because something is “in style”, it doesn’t mean YOU should be wearing it! There’s a saying that goes like this: “Just because you CAN, it doesn’t mean you SHOULD!” This applies to a lot of things— including fashion! As fashion expert Stacey London says: “Dress for the body you actually have, not the body you WISH you had!”

Shaking My Head and Thanking God

My mother went home to be with the Lord almost 3 months ago, after years of battling serious health issues. I try to find comfort in all the good memories I have of her. One of the things I miss about her is our shared love of true crime stories; we both loved to watch shows like “Dateline”, “48 Hours”, as well as some of the stories on the Investigation Discovery channel and the Oxygen channel.

Whenever we discussed what we’d watched, our talks would always include our amazement at just how truly evil some people are–like, there REALLY are people living and walking among us who are so greedy they would murder (or have someone else murder) a loved one just so they can get their filthy hands on their money. I’m talking about women having their husbands murdered, or men having their wives murdered– or children having their parents murdered! For money! Lord knows I have been in need–but I would never kill someone I loved just to get their money.

But you know what? I have to remind myself that the reason I could never do that, is because God has allowed me to have a relationship with Him through His Son Jesus Christ. He has been working in me and I know that, had my life gone in a different direction, had I been exposed to people or circumstances for the enemy to use to plant a bitter root in my soul, I could have ended up being one of those people. I realize that if I don’t stay “prayed up”–if I don’t continue to abide in Jesus, if I don’t continue to feed on His Word and fellowship with Him and His people–I could still go to the dark side!

I have always had an interest in psychology, so there’s a part of me that wonders to myself (while watching these true crime shows): what part of your soul has to be “turned off” to be able to do something like that and not feel ANY sorrow or remorse? How can a woman/man murder the mother/father of their children for money, and think that’s an okay thing to do? While trying to understand the thought processes, I don’t want my mind to go too far into identifying with that “dark side”, because honestly–I find it absolutely terrifying! Maybe it’s terrifying to me because I realize that I’d be so far away from God and His heart for me, and that’s a place I don’t want to be– I’ve already had my many years of living in the wilderness (and I was already far enough from God even then), and I don’t want to even skate “close to the edge”!

So, as I watch these shows and hear the true stories, I shake my head–thinking to myself: “How evil! That’s just horrible!” Lately, I find myself actually saying to myself, ” I can only hope that, while he/she is in prison, they come to know Christ, and then have true godly sorrow– not just remorse– over what they did.” Then, I begin to thank and praise God that He didn’t allow me to go to that very dark place, and I continue to ask for and thank Him for His help to keep me from going there. This is something I must do, because I can’t stay away from that dark side without His help–the minute I start thinking I can do it on my own, I will be in deep trouble!

God is my only reliable Source of help, strength, and encouragement– that’s the whole truth and nothing but the truth!

I Need God’s Grace!

My mother recently went home to be with Jesus; she was 90 years old. She lived a good, godly life and was a wonderful Mom and example of quiet strength and faith despite her failing health the last year of her life.
My father is still with me— he’s 93 and in pretty good health physically. As long as I can remember, he has always gone to church on Sunday mornings. That’s how I was raised— go to church on Sundays!
I love my Dad, and I am glad I still have him. And, I know it’s important to check on him and visit and talk in the phone and all that. But, as much as I love Dad, there are aspects of his personality that can be hard to take— they can even be hurtful. I know I cannot change him; no one can change another person’s attitudes or behavior— only God can do that. However, (and here’s one of those troublesome personality aspects), how much can Dad be changed by God and His Word, when he has such a strong dislike for the vessel God has placed at the church he’s a member of?

You see, Dad really cannot stand his pastor. He badmouths him every chance he gets. It’s getting so that I have to try to steer the conversation toward ANYTHING else besides the pastor— because his badmouthing really affects me negatively and bothers me. I asked Dad, “If you really dislike Pastor ____ that much, why don’t you just leave and find another church to attend?” (It makes no sense to continually sit under a pastor you don’t like or trust.) His response was , “I’m not there to hear HIM— I’m there to hear the WORD! I’m not gonna let that !?$&/: drive me out!”

His response has me asking myself (and wanting to ask my Dad) a question: if you enter the church already having a very negative opinion about the pastor, isn’t your mind and heart already closed to whatever word the Lord has given him to preach? How much “word” are you really receiving if you don’t even receive the vessel God has chosen to deliver that word?

My Mom and I used to talk about this (she loved their pastor and definitely didn’t agree with Dad). I know Mom told me she’d tried on a few occasions to point things out to Dad— to no avail. Now she’s not here to listen to his complaints and badmouthing— so I feel like I’m stuck having to hear it, and it really bothers me. I know there’s something wrong with what Dad is doing— I wish I could find the scriptures that back that up; I’m still searching.

Meanwhile, what do I do? How do I handle Dad’s behavior? How do I honor and respect him while not allowing his behavior to hurt me inside? (There are other things about him too, like his holding grudges for a lllooonnnggg time, doing favors— then complaining about doing them; but I will have to get into that stuff in another post!)

Until I get my answer, I will definitely have to depend on, and thank God for, His grace and wisdom to deal with this. I will continue to love my Dad and support him as he grieves Mom’s departure from this earthly realm. Family is important— especially now. I trust God to lead and guide me.❤️🙏🏾

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